The Art of Loving

Is love an art or is it only a pleasant feeling? This chapter presents us the three main mistaken thoughts about loving which are the reasons why love does not success.

The first error is that people are most worried about being loved than loving. There are some methods they follow to be loved: men, above all, think they have to be successful, powerful, rich. Women think they have to be more attractive; and both of them consider important to develop pleasant manners, interesting conversation, etc. We think that we have to be popular and have sex appeal to be loved.

The second error is to assume that the problem of love is the problem of an object, not the problem of a faculty; to think that to love is simple but not to find someone to be loved by. 

The third error is to confuse the initial experience of falling in love and the permanent state of being in love.

To success in love we have to become aware that love is an art, and we have to learn about it and to think there is nothing else more important than to love.